I didn’t know what I wanted from life.

#self-care reading

A culmination of different events brought my client to my door.  She was anxious about her future and had no idea what she really wanted to do.  A couple of friends had moved and were doing new and exciting things. She enjoyed her job but felt that it no longer challenged her.   These uncertainties were beginning to be a constant source of anxiety.

My client knew she didn’t need therapy but decided that Life Coaching may be  the solution.  At first there was a hint of apprehension which quite often is the case when clients arrive for their first session, however this is soon overcome once we start chatting.

Coaching is not about telling your deep dark secrets to a stranger, it is about looking at all aspects of your life and figuring out those that are in balance and those that are out of balance.    One of the best ways to do this that many coaches use is the Wheel of Life.   http://coachingcafeme.com/2012/06/01/the-wheel-of-life-in-the-sky/  From there I always like to find out how the client feels about their career and social life and what makes them happy.  Then we can really get going.

If you don’t know what you want from life, and don’t know where to start and are feeling lost or anxious,  then Life Coaching could be the solution to get you back on track and living your life to the full.

My FAQ’s regarding Life Coaching can be found on this link  http://www.margaretabraham.co.uk/about-us/if-you-hire-me-what-do-you-get/

Margaret Abraham can help you change your life by restoring your faith in yourself, helping you breakthrough whatever keeps you stuck, and will support you all the way on the journey to stepping into your full potential of a happy and fulfilling life.  

Tel: 07971 864509 or email me :  margaret@healthandwealthresources.co.uk 

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Create More Fun in your Life

This post has come from  a conversation I had with a client last week about all work and no play.

How much time do you take having fun.  I mean how much do YOU take having FUN!   We can so easily get caught up in the day-to-day stories of our lives and push having fun to the bottom of the list and yes I have been guilty of it too in the past.  However, some years ago that all changed.

I had a couple of health scares due to all work and no play so something had to change.  A few years later my sister who seemed absolutely healthy went to bed and died in her sleep.  Ever since when I get into too much work and no play, I ask myself what if tomorrow never comes. So go and HAVE SOME FUN!

This week one of my clients was lamenting the fact that she had no time. It’s a fact that when I start to work with most clients they complain of always too much to do, running here and running there, and find themselves in relationships that are no fun either.  Weekends are spent supermarket shopping  and catching up with chores.

It seems to me  we  have learned to ration fun, limiting it to a big night out, a date, or perhaps a party, at worse only on holiday!   This type of thinking creates resentment and frustration that mostly is then aimed at our nearest and dearest and can wreck relationships.   We all need FUN!

Rather than letting time get away from us and life pass us by  then ending up feeling unfulfilled and unrewarded, here are some tips that will help you to be creative about having fun.

TIPS 

  • Write a list of things you used to love doing as a child or teenager, this may trigger your memory to recollect something you had fun with but have forgotten all about it.  If you have young children show them some of the games you used to play, I imagine in most cases they will be different from the things that are  used to entertain them today.
  • If its a rainy day and you have children, instead of just watching television or playing on the computer, entertain them with some of your old photos when you were young and tell some stories of what you did as a child.   Kids love to hear stories about you that they don’t know. 
  • Do something different everyday like the art journal above for instance.  Spend 10 minutes  doing this  with bits and pieces around you and you will be out of all the stuff going on in your head.   It’s a bit like having a colouring book and crayons when you were a child; time seems to stand still.
  • Go explore your neighbour hood and walk in a different direction than you would usually walk.  See your surroundings from a different perspective and take some photos, have fun and then write about it.
  • Take a good look and what you do in a week. Draw a circle on a piece of paper and slice it up into pieces of pie.  i.e. 7hrs sleep = 49 hrs, work = ? hours, taking kids to activities = ? hours.  Remember there are only 169 hours in a week, so stop trying to make it 200 hours.
  • When you do the above exercise several things happen.  First of all you may find that you probably do many things but do not complete them as you get distracted.  This creates a feeling of  always being under pressure and things start to get on top of you.   If you look really hard you will also find where you lose time.   How do you manage your time? Where can you make some improvements which will free up some time for fun.
  • If you include others in your activities make sure they are not people who inhibit you in the first place but people who lift your spirits.
  • Try out a new recipe and invite a friend around. 
  • We all have a different idea of what fun is, so be prepared to experiment and try things you have not done before.  This will  help you find your key to having fun.
  • Having fun is paramount to good health and well being, it is not just for evenings and weekends,  so keep on the look out for opportunities during the day. 


Margaret Abraham can help you change your life by restoring your faith in yourself, helping you breakthrough whatever keeps you stuck, and will support you all the way on the journey to stepping into your full potential of a happy and fulfilling life. For more information simply email me or call me 07971 864509. I will happily answer any questions you have and make sure you get all the information you need. 

Find out about “COACH ON CALL” four affordable ways you can work with me. You can visit my website by clicking on the following link  

http://www.margaretabraham.co.uk/work-with-me/


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A Labour of Love

I was seven when I became an Auntie to my eldest sisters’ daughter Elaine.   Elaine and I grew up together as children,  I was the one who was usually doing something I shouldn’t be doing, and Elaine was the one who went and told my mum what I was up to.  We were very close as children more like sisters as there was only 7 years between us.   I moved away from home when I married and Elaine also moved away from home when she married so our relationship ever since has always been at a distance unfortunately,  and a couple of times a year we meet up at  family celebrations, or indeed at family funerals but it is always good to see each other.

I have two sons,  Elaine has three sons and last weekend  my partner and I attended the wedding of Amy and Adrian childhood sweethearts, Adrian being Elaine’s second son .   As we don’t see each other very often I was thrilled to received an invitation to the wedding and looked forward to catching up.   Since the weekend there have been loads of pictures of the wedding on Facebook so I thought I would publish some pictures that I took at the wedding with my iPhone that showed me how the preparation for the day had been for Amy and Adrian a “Labour of Love”.

Picture No. 1 – The Wedding invitation – “a bicycle made for two!”

Picture No. 2 – The Church Service all tagged up with “Thank You”

When we arrived at the church the rain was heavy, it was cold and grey and not really what a bride and groom look forward to on their wedding day.  Thankfully by the time the bride arrived the rain had miraculously stopped and even stopped for most of the day  which was a blessing as the reception was in a marquee and beautiful gardens.

Here are some more creative details which were part of the day.   Being a creative spirit I felt I was on a treasure hunt!

Picture No. 3 – Seating arrangements – “You’ve been framed!”

Just to make sure that every one was happy, take a look at this for a goodies table to keep you going until it was time for the wedding breakfast.   The bunting read “Life is Sweet”!

Picture No. 4 – You can imagine where everyone gravitated to on arrival at the reception!

Photo No. 5

On finding your place at the table each of the ladies had a gift of a vintage cup and saucer with more sweeties and personal name tag.   Photo No. 6

The men each had a parcel of chocolate with name tag plus a lottery ticket!  Not heard if anyone won anything  though.  Photo No. 7.

I took the next picture because there were many little jars and bottles with tags and quotes and I liked this one.   “There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved”.  It reminded me of some special bookmarks I made for my eldest son and his wife with the very same quote  when they were married.  Photo No. 8.

Here is what I found when I went over to the bar marquee.   An area for guests to sign their name, leave cards and comments so that Amy and Adrian could add them to their memories of their special day.

Photo No. 9

Sign a balloon for a treasured memory.  Photo No. 10

Another  lovely area with a vintage feel to it.  Photo No.11

Added to all of the above were several boxes with plants dotted around everywhere stencilled with Adi and Amy and the date.  Photo  No. 12

When the photographs were being taken I noticed Amy’s shoes peeping out from under her wedding gown which were to match the dresses of the bridesmaids so she let me take a photo of them.  On the soles of the shoes were the words “I do”.

Photo No. 13

Lastly here is the ONE photo I took of Amy and Adrian during the photograph sessions.  I have taken so many of the different details that my iPhone ran out of juice!   Good job they weren’t relying on me to record the wedding!

It was a lovely day, a lot of thought had gone into making it special and I know they had lots of help, but I really appreciated what for them must have been a “Labour of Love”.  

Photo No. 14

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The Wheel of Life in the sky

Last week when we had the lovely sunshine and balmy evenings I took this photo whilst sitting in the garden and looking at the stars.   Everything was outlined by the setting sun even the telephone wires looked as thought they had split the sky into different portions.   It reminded me of a starter session I used to run regularly when facilitating Personal Development workshops in and around Doncaster, Sheffield and Leeds.

The Wheel of Life is used by many coaches and is designed to help you get a quick view of where you are in your life and where you are in or out of balance. It is well worth plotting your Wheel of Life every two months or so to watch your own progress and check that you are maintaining the necessary balance in your life.  Once plotted you can see at a glance where you need to set goals, reflect on your life and acknowledge your strengths and celebrate your achievements.   To demonstrate what I mean here is the type of wheel most coaches will use.  It is a useful starting point if you are ready to make change.

All you have to do is give yourself a score for each area in your life. Ten (at the circumference) means that everything is absolutely perfect, while one (at the centre) means the exact opposite.

If you place a dot on each line corresponding to each category and then join the dots up, you will clearly see where you are out of balance.  An unbalanced wheel is like trying to drive a care with unbalanced wheels, you wouldn’t get very far would you. It is the same in life, whenever you are out of balance you suffer physically and mentally.

The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your thoughts.  By changing your thoughts, and changing your emotions, you change your results and your world.   Give the wheel a go, see where you are at this time in your life, then reflect and see where you can make some improvements that will be beneficial to you and those around you.  Have Fun!

Margaret Abraham can help you change your life by restoring your faith in yourself, helping you breakthrough whatever keeps you stuck, and will support you all the way on the journey to stepping into your full potential of a happy and fulfilling life. For more information simply email me or call me 07971 864509. I will happily answer any questions you have and make sure you get all the information you need. 

Find out about “COACH ON CALL” four affordable ways you can work with me. You can visit my website by clicking on the following link  

http://www.margaretabraham.co.uk/work-with-me/


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Seeing the light!

I took this photo with my i-phone because i couldn’t believe what I was seeing.  How often do you see something look away and then quickly look back to see if you were really seeing it.  It happened to me the other day.  I was sitting in my breakfast room, outside was cold, windy and wet.  I was reading and the house was really quiet and I was enjoying the peace.   Suddenly this light appeared by the door and it was so bright it startled me as it lit up the whole room.   I quickly looked out of the window, just to confirm it was still cold, wet and windy and wondered how the sun had managed to shine around the corner of the house and create this light.

As I looked out of the window I could see the sun barely visible behind a black cloud making me smile as I was reminded that whatever sort of day we are having, right there behind the clouds the sun is always shining and no matter what we have going on there can be an instant change when we least expect it.  It also reminded me that we should take all opportunities that arise as they can be gone in an instant just like the sun.

Today the sun really is shining! We have gone from cold, wet and windy to hot! I have taken the opportunity to do some more planting as it may be gone tomorrow.  During the winter we knocked down an old garage and extended the garden another 2 metres. Built a new wall and place for all the garden furniture etc and now, today, the plants I have been putting in the garden for the last two months are standing proud and tall raising their heads towards the light.  It is starting to look like a garden again and the tranquil space I have been dreaming of.

This is my clematis which has survived the builders, winter, rand the rain and cold.  Isn’t it amazing that despite all the odds it has survived.  Nature really does have a lot to teach us about persistence.

I hope wherever you are today you are able to enjoy the sunshine and take a little time to sit and appreciate the abundance all around us.  Enjoy!

Margaret Abraham can help you change your life by restoring your faith in yourself, helping you breakthrough whatever keeps you stuck, and will support you all the way on the journey to stepping into your full potential of a happy and fulfilling life. For more information simply email me or call me 07971 864509. I will happily answer any questions you have and make sure you get all the information you need. 

You can visit my website by clicking on the following link  http://www.margaretabraham.co.uk/

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Inspirational Bank Holiday Monday

I am always fascinated how other people see the world and yesterday being Bank Holiday Monday I paid a visit to the Artists Open Day next to the Dukeries Garden Centre, Nr Workshop, Nottinghamshire where various artists open their doors for one day into their inner sanctum.

I find my creative spirit is always fired up when I see artists in their working surroundings. Usually a messy sort of place, but lets face it you can’t be creative and tidy, well I can’t anyway. However, on Open Days they all seem to manage to have a tidy up and find a spot that is suitable to display their work. I was not disappointed.

First stop – Louise Presley Textile Artist – studio Hope & Elvis, don’t ask me how she came up with this name I am sure there is a very good reason, but as I stepped in the door my eyes alighted on shelves stuffed with fabric, boxes full of buttons, stuffing coming out of boxes, ribbons, trimmings and all sort of goodies that make my creative spirit sing and I just want to sit down in a plump chair with a needle and thread and create something wonderful from a flat piece of fabric. Oh Joy!  I could have stayed in there all day but I had my partner with me who was quite good at hanging around and looking interested whilst I talked to complete strangers about all the wonderful items and what could be done with them.  Below is what I purchased for my granddaughter (5) for when she comes to visit us in August.  Can’t wait!  For more information on workshops www.hopeandelvis.com

Next stop Magie Hollingworth  Artist -Paper Mache .

Beautiful bowls, clocks, ornaments all crafted out of paper machie and decorated by hand.  Another glimmer into the mind of how the artist sees everyday things that most of us just take for granted.   Hours of inspiration, dedication and patience to create such beautiful objects.  Absolutely fantastic.  More info visit www.maggiehollingworth.co.uk

Next stop was a Studio that looked like Steptoe’s yard.  As I stepped through the door there was stuff hanging from the walls, the ceiling, around the doorway, it look like a well loved junk shop.   Steve Handley – reclaimed, recycled, and reinvented. That’s what it says on his card!  Steve takes on special commissions for chairs, dressers, beds, and cupboards like the one above made from all things that people throw away.   To find out more visit his website www.stevehandley.co.uk  it gives you a real insight into the man.  If you want to know how many things you can make from spoons, candlesticks, napkin rings, rolling pins then he is your man.

It was a cold day yesterday but I didn’t notice.  I was so inspired by these artists and so happy in that space of creativity, I could feel the thrill of it flowing through me all day long.  After 4 hours my partner had had enough, I had really only just started!

How do you see your world?

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THIS PLACE I CALL HOME

This week I decided to take a “home” retreat.  Richard my partner left early Monday morning and will not be back until Friday evening.   Here was an opportunity to practice what I preach.  Today is day four and apart from one phone call Monday morning, a visitor on Wednesday morning, I have been alone.  No clients, no groups, just ME.

I have been juicing, made a batch of homemade squash & carrot soup, loads of lovely healthy food, stillness, silence and space.   I have taken time to read, listen to music, meditate, write, and 1 hour of computer each day.     I am feeling good in this place I call home.

THIS PLACE I CALL HOME

My house is silent

It’s energy quiet, expectant

It only moves if I do

It has wrapped me up

Taken me into its heart

It is breathing for me

It whispers, stop, be present,

be here, and create space within.

My house

It is keeping me safe at night,

Letting me melt into beautiful dreams

Waking me when it is morning

Bringing me back safely from nocturnal adventures.

My house

It is with me when I read,

It stays quiet when I meditate,

It watches me in the garden,

Shields me from wind and rain

Occasionally bathes me in sunshine

My house

It is my friend, my comfort,

My sacred space which nurtures me

My place where I am totally me

Happy, creative, thriving

My House

Cosy chairs, soft blankets,

Warm duvets,

Shelves crammed with books,

Pictures and treasured possessions

Lifetime memories

Love

My house

Margaret Abraham © May 3RD  2012

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Easter Challenge – If I had life my to live over


If I had my life to live over.

I would never again go on a diet and worry about how the magazines say I should look.

I would never again go on holiday and stay covered up on the beach and make up stories in my head that everyone but me was perfect.

I would just be ME.

I would have the same experiences (black holes)  because they have been my biggest learnings even though I didn’t realise it at the time.

I would let go of “not good enough” and love myself completely and let myself be loved.

If I had my life over I would be more spontaneous and adventurous and trust that I was in the right place at the right time.

I would have a house in the Lake District with access to Lake Coniston and enjoy every single moment, instead of thinking it was the most boring place on earth like I did in my twenties!

I would learn to ride a motorbike so I could feel the wind in my hair and know what it is like at the front instead of always being a pillion passenger!

If I had my live over  I would  remember everyone’s birthday family and friends!

I would learn to have an OFF button and chill out, really chill out, not pretend.

I would have friends around more often and cook for them.

I would have friends in lots of different countries where I would be welcome to stay, they could then visit me. This would  feed my spirits  longing to pack a bag and go travelling, and still have a sacred space to come home to.

I would just be ME and make every second count.

Happy Easter everyone

Here is your invitation to join in the fun over at IACCW   Easter writing challenge: write your own piece on this topic! And post links to what you have written for us all to share. Anyone up for that?

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TREASURED POSSESSIONS

I love how reading something or talking to someone can prompt your imagination and send it of into the distant recesses of your memory and create a magic moment.  Last Monday I read a comment on Facebook by Julia McCutchen founder and creator of the International Association of Conscious and Creative Writers.  I am a member of the IACCW and love the Monday Imaginings that Julia puts out as prompts to encourage all aspiring writers like myself to spend 20 minutes writing and just letting it flow.  On Monday Julia’s  suggestion was to  imagine yourself in a room that is filled with your favourite possessions and each one has a story associated with it.  Select one possession and write about it for 20 minutes.   Here is my story……….

What you see in the above picture is a  small cut glass perfume bottle that sits on the shelf of my book-case in my bedroom.  It has a glass stopper and on top of that a silver cap with the initial “M”.  The perfume bottle is a treasured possession that was given to me by my mother-in-law many years ago as a birthday gift.  It is an antique item and so it has had a previous life before coming to live with me.

My mother-in-law bought it for me because of the “M” initial on the top.  Having decided this would be the possession I would write about I sat down and held it in my hand and closed my eyes.  As I held it in my hand my mind traveled back many years to a time when I was a young girl, in love with my handsome prince.  With my eyes still closed I could feel the outline of the “M” on the top of the bottle and the sharp edges and dips where the craftsman had cut the glass to create a beautiful design which, when the sun shines on it, creates the most amazing sparkles with all the colours of the rainbow.

My mother-in-law was named Evelyn and I felt blessed that despite her being a little bit bossy, she was to become a great friend and teacher.  In the early years she spent a lot of time teaching me how to cook, how to bake.  At weekends I would quite often stay over for the weekend and I would plan a menu and Evelyn would allow me to use the kitchen and create a meal that we would all sit down to in the evening.  She helped build my confidence in cooking and baking, preparing different foods I had not seen or eaten before.   We also loved to go shopping together for food once we had decided on the menu for the evening, always via the coffee shop for tea and cake.  The whole process was a great adventure.  Of course she was a very wise woman because she made sure that her son would be looked after once we were married,  as far as food was concerned anyway!

I loved going in the cupboards in the kitchen and looking through all the spices and bottles and packets, finding any excuse to use a piece of equipment  or gadget I had not used before.   I also remember she had a beautiful china dinner service and pure white table linen which on occasions she would also let me use.

Evelyn was a very creative flower arranger  and was quite happy to help me create a floral display for the centre of the table.   I think she enjoyed these occasions as much as I did.   Evelyn died many years ago, even so I think of her every time I look at the cut glass perfume bottle.   She is gone but definitely not forgotten.

If you are an aspiring writer and don’t know where to start, then I can certainly recommend the IACCW and the benefits of membership.   There are also many free resources for writers too.

Margaret Abraham can help you change your life by restoring your faith in yourself, helping you breakthrough whatever keeps you stuck, and will support you all the way on the journey to stepping into your full potential of a happy and fulfilling life. For more information simply email me or call me 07971 864509. I will happily answer any questions you have and make sure you get all the information you need. 

You can visit my website by clicking on the following link  http://www.margaretabraham.co.uk/

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A SENSE OF SPACE

On days like today when the sun is shining I always get the urge to take a walk to the space at the end of my road.   It is a constantly changing picture and never ceases to make me feel grateful that it is so close by.  It’s a daily part of my life, whether I am travelling by car, taking the bus, or walking around it.  I feel I belong to it and it belongs to everyone who visits come rain or shine.   I love this space at the end of my road.

THE SPACE AT THE END OF MY ROAD

Lined with Edwardian houses, standing as guardians of the precious space. No houses built here, just a beautiful green space for the people.

In winter, the trees are bare, and in their nakedness the space seems to expand as far as the eye can see. It’s visitors scurry across from one corner to another, fighting the wind and rain on their way to who knows where.

On Sundays the footballers and their supporters visit the space to play their games. The wind carries their voices across the rooftops into our gardens.

When it snows footprints are all you see, leaving behind mysterious patterns.  Someone starts a snowball and it grows and grows, as if invisible hands have pushed it until too big to push any further.

In  summer the green space beckons, the trees in all their glory rustle in the breeze, whispering and encouraging you to play, picnic, meet friends, sit awhile.  People with their dogs congregate on the footpaths chatting, the dogs running riot and having the time of their lives,  whilst children are running and playing on their way to school at the edge of this beautiful green space.

New seats have been placed around the edges, and if you sit and close your eyes, the light breeze and warmth of the sun will caress you like an invisible hand, and you feel surrounded with universal love.

Yet while I walk this space each day revelling in its beauty, there is secret excitement bubbling inside knowing that the next season will show its true colours. Oh, how I love the Autumn.

This space is my companion on my walks through the seasons, a forever changing landscape of colour and texture.  How lucky am I to have all this at the end of my road.

Margaret Abraham can help you change your life by restoring your faith in yourself, helping you breakthrough whatever keeps you stuck, and will support you all the way on the journey to stepping into your full potential of a happy and fulfilling life. For more information simply email me or call me 07971 864509. I will happily answer any questions you have and make sure you get all the information you need. 

You can visit my website by clicking on the following link  http://www.margaretabraham.co.uk/

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